I wholeheartedly agree. When I was active with the pro-life movement in Baltimore I got some literature from a prolife organization in the mail that had aborted fetuses on the envelope and I was completely horrified. I wrote to the head of the organization and asked to be taken off their mailing list because I didn't believe it was acceptable to send material in envelopes with photographs of corpses on the cover.

In Abby Johnson's book Unplanned she describes how prolifers with bloody fetus photos drew her away from their side, and into the arms of Planned Parenthood because she thought they were lunatics harassing women and didn't want to be associated with them. Later as a director of a local Planned Parenthood, she would convert from prochoice to prolife, but it was only after a life-altering experience of operating an ultrasound during an abortion, and after the prolifers at her clinic changed their tone and got rid of some of the more inflammatory images.
 

Word. We're so bad at communicating with each other, or understanding ourselves, as a species that I think moving discourse in a rational direction is always a good idea, because we have bad mental models of the minds of others, even people we are close to. Appealing to their emotions will often backfire.

Hmm, do you have the book available for borrowing purposes?